Sustained Society

Blind Marriages

There are many broken marriages because of the physical or mental incompatibility. People marry without knowing each other. They take the oath of living together forever as soul mate and in very first night they come to know this relation will not last any longer because of incompatibility! Still you try to patch up things but within a year or so you feel like enough is enough. You can’t spoil your whole life for your oath. You deserve a better life and with a heavy heart you broke up and move on.

In Indian sub-continent, this is a tremendous problem. We can call such unions as blind marriage where boy and girl didn’t see and talk to each other until they get married. Families of bride and groom make all the arrangements and they feel quite proud about it and believe it is morally correct. We can minimize such incidents of illogical practice resulting in divorce, if we let boy and girl to meet and understand each other completely before marriage. Let them spent some time together before they marry each other.

We do see some successful blind marriages, but in most of the cases such marriages succeed only because of wife does all the sacrifices to save her marriage. Her parents always tell her that if she disobeys her husband she is wrong, and there is no space in their home for her if she came back after fighting with her husband. Can there be anything more ridicules’ than this? Society preaches such behaviour as morality!

Time had come when we should raise our voice against such stupidity so-called morals. In small cities and villages you can still find such practice. I do not understand logic of it in a society which allows co-education . But when it comes to marriage it becomes somewhat objectionable if bride and groom want to see or talk to each other before marriage, the whole family will have problem. As blind dates are dengerous, so are blind marriages which can ruin your entire life.

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You can change the world.

Close your eyes, and think for a moment that this life is first and the last chance for you to make your mark on earth! Are you doing your best? Look at animals, they breed, eat, drink, sleep, breath and finally die. They do not have even half of intelligence that human has, still they do more than half of similar works we do in our life. We breed, eat, drink, sleep, breath and finally die.

What is the benefit of being most intelligent species on earth if we live same life as animals do? What we achieved in last 10, 000 years is nothing compare to what we could have achieved if every human had contributed equally.  Just look at the below pictures and think, how many Einstein and Newton’s we have lost.

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Power of religion

Why Creator gave us so much intelligence if he wanted us to live like this? No true religion can degrade humans to this level. A true religion must teach us how to live an organised, progressive, purposeful, meaningful and happy life. It should treat everyone equal. No slavery, no caste system, no difference between black and white. When Creator created everyone, there should not be any difference. All humans must be treated equal.

Present population of earth exceeds seven billion. How many persons do you know? If you are well-informed and socially and politically active, you might know maximum of 1000 persons by name and recognise their face too. What about other 6.9999 billion people? Are they live on some other planet?

World knows only those people who are famous and those who achieved something in their life. We all have equal potential to grow and to succeed in life, however, only few of us dare to take calculated risk. Still few dream and think big. And least of us never give up. They are those who change the world.

Human mind has tremendous power. We only need to realise it, focus on it and channelized it in right direction. You can change the world. You just need to believe in your capabilities. A wise man is one who has full control of himself. Before knowing other things, you must know yourself. You can do whatever you want to do. Believe in yourself and think before acting. Do not wait for tomorrow to start anything. Do it now. First plan it and then execute your plan.

Nothing is impossible for a determined person. Never underestimate yourself. Never be afraid of challenges life throws towards you. Only tough situation brings out best of you. Treat every problem as an opportunity.

Human beings are superior to all creatures, because of our ability to reason and self-control in any situation.

III. Is it true that C-section surgery is less painful than normal delivery for women?

 

I do not believe that man and women are equal. I think women are superior to man and everyone will agree with me when it comes to bringing a new life to earth. No man can bear so much pain and suffering that a mother bear during pregnancy and delivery.

Unfortunately, I some countries delivery through major operation is becoming a business for Doctors. They neither wait for normal delivery not do they give correct information to patient and her family member. Moreover, they frighten the pregnant women so much that she agrees for operation willingly. On internet, you will find many posts telling you how painful is normal delivery. However, no one will tell you side effects of major operation.

 Since during operation (C-section or A caesarean section which is a surgical procedure to deliver a baby through a cut in the mother’s abdomen (tummy) and uterus (womb)), doctor gave you anesthesia, you do not feel pain immediately. However, later when you wake up you start feeling pain and for at least 24 hours you can’t eat or drink anything. For three to four days, your one hand will remain stagnant by drips. Every now and then Nurse will come for injection. On fourth day, you can walk on your feet and might be discharge from hospital. Your problems will not end here. You will be informed about a list of precautions. Even after six month, you might have back ache and weakness.

 

In normal delivery, pain is more but after delivery, you are free. Doctors will not be able to charge huge fees, which they charge during operation. Hence, many doctors recommend operation instead of normal delivery to fetch huge amount of money.  

To give importance to life, nature device this mechanism of pain. Some C-sections are considered elective, meaning they are requested by the mother for non-medical reasons before she goes into labor. A woman may choose to have a C-section if she wants to plan when she delivers or if she previously had a complicated vaginal delivery.

The decision for operation or normal delivery should be based upon medical condition of patient and baby not on pain or profit. Please check the history of Doctor before starting your treatment.

I am not a woman. However, I am a husband and a father of two beautiful daughters. I was with my wife during both deliveries, and in both cases, Doctor recommended operation for different reasons. In my opinion, normal delivery is better option because  it has a shorter hospital stay and recovery time then operation. Stating that C-section is less painful is baseless as cumulative pain is same in both the cases.

 

 

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