One of the most important thing that holds us back from achieving our goal is Fear. There are different kind of fears.
Fear of Failure
Fear of disrespect
Fear of rejection
Fear of injuries
Fear of losing something valuable
Fear of death
Fear of future
Fear of past mistakes
Fear of Unknown
There can be many other kind of fears, however, there is only one solution to conquer your fear –Face your fear.All humans are same. No one has shark’s teeth. If you fear any of your teacher, boss or even your parents then meet them often and talk to them, spent time with them. Soon you will realize they are just human like you. running away from your fear will not solve your proble.
Fear has profound effect on our personality and daily life. We know about what will happen to us after our death through religious scriptures and science. Both, religious scriptures and science, gives us different picture of this mystery. Science tells us that as we die, we cease to exist and that is the end of everything for us. Whereas religion tells us that death is the beginning of new and real life, where, we will be rewarded or punished. Reward or punishments will be based on our deeds in this world. Punishments will be so severe that mare listening about it frighten you. Fear start playing its role. Fear of unknown start troubling us. We start worrying about our ultimate fate. As our age increases, people becomes more religious. They have no courage to find truth or listen to another religious preacher.
Fear plays very important role in holding religious followers to their religion. I mean, you born in an alien world knowing nothing about your pre-existence, except what your parents told you. You were a combination of sperm and ovum called Zygote- a fertilized ovum. Before that, you never existed in physical world. Religion has enough information to quench your curiosity. Since, your childhood parents and teacher told you that lord will punish you if you some bad things. This fear of punishment makes a permanent home in your mind. As you grow up, you want to stick with your religion to escape punishment from lord. Your subconscious brain is so afraid that you will never allow your thinking brain to argue against it. Even if your brain wants to rebel because of facts and evidence, you console your brain using Pascal wager argument: “Granted that faith cannot be proved, what harm will come to you if you gamble on its truth and it proves false? If you gain, you gain all; if you lose, you lose nothing”
He was right in his argument. Nevertheless, Mr. Pascal forget to answer most important question, i.e. which God or Which Faith? Does he meant a Christian God with a son and Holy Spirit? Alternatively, does faith means Islamic faith or Hindu faith or Greek Faith or Zoroastrians Faith.
Even though, Pascal wager argument is flawed, it is enough to console a fearful mind. You never try to search for truth because you are so afraid of losing faith in your religion that will cause you eternal torments. Your logic fails to tell you that, if you follow false religion you will waste both lives. The only way to succeed in both the world is to find the true faith and follow it passionately. Read your scriptures and others too. Take out some time and do some research. Spending one year in searching of true faith is more important than following wrong faith blindly. Birth is not the right way to choose your faith. Read my detailed post on this topic here.
Many people do not even realize that they are suffering because of fear. First, we need to recognize our fear to conquer them. Pin point your fear. Think what is holding you back. Is it your stammer? Is it your fear to lose job? Is it the risk involve? Is it your loved one or is it fear of your past mistakes? Once you pin point your fear, you can look for solution.
Fear of failure is the most common fear we encounter in our life. However, there is no point in fearing from failure. Failures are good. You can read more about it in my blog by clicking here. Besides that, if you want to avoid failure, then you need to start with positive frame of mind. You must think about success not failures. Start with success in your mind. It will give you enthusiasm, courage and confidence to win in any situation. Do not waste energy thinking about failures. Make a plan to win, and stick to it without worrying about outcome.
Start Facing your fears and you will see them vanishing. As you run away from your fears, you make fear grow and it becomes harder to conquer them. But for a successful life, eliminating fear is necessary.